Hi Dilemma Panel, I hope you can help me gain some perspectives on a tough situation I’ve found myself in during the first month of my studies.

I met an incredibly sweet girl who is smart and fun to be around. We quickly became friends, along with some others who also moved to the city for school, and the first days of student life were a breeze. Everything was going perfectly until she started sharing details about her high school boyfriend, who she didn’t seem very invested in. That’s when things started to get complicated.

She confided in me, seeking advice on what to do about her relationship. I honestly thought she should break up with him since she didn’t seem genuinely interested, but her response surprised me. Instead of following my advice, she decided to get involved with another guy to have a valid reason to end the relationship. That decision led to a series of unhealthy encounters with guys who seemed only interested in her physically.

She began drinking, partying, and slowly seemed to drift away from the person I first met. There’s this guy she met at church, who says he’s Christian, but he’s treating her in a toxic way—yelling at her, leading her on, yet she seems to be totally into him. She’s Christian herself and says she’s not proud of the intimate aspects of their relationship, but she enjoys the attention she gets from him.

Now, every time I hang out with her, things feel different and weird. I’ve tried my best to offer advice, but it’s like hitting a wall. I can’t seem to get her to change her lifestyle or the choices she’s making. I feel like I’m at a crossroads and don’t know what to do.

Should I end the friendship, or should I sit down and have an honest conversation with her? I know it’s a complex situation, and I’m looking for some good advice here. What would you do if you were in my shoes?

Thanks for your help, Dilemma Panel